Tuesday, 26 June 2018

Why I Love Spending Time On My Own and Why I Hate It

I've always loved saying that I love spending time on my own. The time when you can stick your headphones in whilst walking to the train station, taking the afternoon off to just sit with a book or even going for a long walk without technology (which is what I did recently and let me tell you... it's bliss). 

I love the hustle and bustle of meeting up with friends and doing things, I do; but sometimes I like to do what I like when I like. I've always been someone who needs time out every now and again. After a group holiday, I tend to want to run to my bed for 24 hours afterwards to recharge as I find having to interact with others exhausting, which isn't something you hear people often admitting too. 

I've made it my goal for 2018 to make more friends, but I worry that my desire to sometimes take a step back and just spend some time alone may stop them from wanting to hang out, but that's simply not true. Most people need a morning or an evening to just do nothing, watch some trash TV or read a book and just be alone. Luckily me and Tom are similar in this way which means although I may be in the house with him, we might just spend an hour or two doing our own thing before reconnecting - honestly I'm very happy that we can do that with such ease! 

Here are a few things that you can do on your own:

- Read that book that has been on your to-read pile. 
- Go for a walk in a place you've always wanted to go. 
- Watch that film in the cinema that no-one will go with you to. 
- Spend time outside gardening or photographing flowers. 
- Simply stay in bed and binge watch Netflix. 
I wasn't going to talk about this, but I thought I'd touch upon it anyway. I'm quite the walking contradictory as although alone time is bliss, I get serious FOMO too. I think this stems from a "fear of being left out" rather than "fear of missing out" and it's carried on into my adult life. FOMO gets to the next level whenever if I'm poorly and should probably stay in bed, if there's plans to go out I will try my absolute best to drag myself along anyway. I think making more of an effort to be friends with people and opening up a bit has been a great positive influence on me, as I now know that people are wanting to be my friend rather than doing so just because we're stuck in a classroom together like we were at school. 

I've accepted recently that I quite like being alone but also not being alone; even when I want to be on my own 80% of the time that's okay too. Sometimes we all need some time away with our own thoughts; whether that's for an hour or a day, it's all about balance. Similarly I think everyone loves human interaction; meeting up with a friend or a relative are great ways to put a smile on your face. 

Here are a few ideas on what you can do with others:

- Pub gardens in the Summer are what dreams are made of. 
- Go to an escape room or quiz night - the cheesier the better. 
- Get everyone to the cinema to see the films everyone wants to see.
- Do something you wouldn't usually do. Go Ape etc. 
- Have everyone around to your house for a get together. 

Do you get FOMO? Do you like spending time on your own? 


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